Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Age Ain't Nothin But a Number........Right?

Dating is already a headache for some.  But what makes it worse in when you include factors like geographical location, race, physical features...you know things like that. She has to be within x amount of miles from me. Or he must be over 6'ft tall.  Or how about the people you know that say they only date a certain race. You began to limit yourself greatly.  Its one thing to be geographically unattractive (you live too far away),  Yes, I know someone that has experienced that.....but it just gets even more frustrating when you are numerically unattractive.  Apparently age is more than just a number.  It can determine if you are acceptable enough to date. Soooo...what check box do you belong in?

  • 18-25
  • 26-34
  • 35-45

And so on.......But why is it we limit ourselves to a box? Me...... I don't look at age as a determining factor as to if someone is dating material. I think compatibility, attraction, and being like-minded are far more important. For me, I have always been attracted to older men, and it has never been a problem.... until now. All of a sudden I'm too young. Yeah, me! Soon to be 40.....I'm too young! That's funny to me and a tad bit flattering. Perhaps its just an excuse to cover insecurities about getting older or we just weren't compatible,  who really knows.... but my question for you is.... Have you ever dated anyone that was much younger or older than you? How did that relationship work out ? What issues did you experience, if any? What was the biggest challenge? How did family/friends react to the age difference?
 I can say that my experience from dating younger guys (when I was in my 20's) was that they were so immature or didn't  really know what they wanted in life. It got to the point where as when dating outside my check-box, it allowed me to experience relationships on a much more mature level. I loved it...so naturally I deviated from and eventually eliminated dating younger guys to only dating guys my age or  older.  Am I prejudice against my younger guys....not at all. I may dabble in that pool again (now that I'm older :)
One thing to keep in mind....... if you are dating someone younger or older, sometimes you can be as much as a generation apart. Instead of seeing it as a big age difference, take the time to learn about each other. You may see that you have more in common than you thought. Focus more on those things instead of how your age difference. If you are dating someone older, remember that being older can mean being somewhat set in your ways. This is not a bad thing. Just recognize people are who they are and the longer they have been a certain way, the harder it is for them to change. You shouldn't expect them to anyway. This goes for any relationship. Always allow them to be themselves. After all, isn't that the person you fell for anyway. Lastly your age does not necessarily have to correlate with how you feel. You can be 60 and feel 40. Don't think you have to act or feel a certain way because you are a certain age. You are only as old as you feel.
Bottom line: Be open to dating and relationships regardless of age because you may end up happily surprised ....... After all, Age ain't nothin' but a number................. Thanks for reading!!! Don't forget to comment and share your experiences!!
 






12 comments:

  1. Hmmmmmm...I say live your life.

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    1. I agree. Its what you prefer. What's the youngest or oldest you have dated. Or do you prefer to stay in your check-box?

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  2. I would say age really is a number. Maturity doesn't come with age. It comes with experience. I've dated women older and younger than me. There's a difference when you've experienced a lot things and situations. Just my two cents.....

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    1. I can agree. When you have experienced a lot things, sometimes others cant relate.

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  3. Younger women are more my flava. I dated an older woman and she was not as fun.

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    1. Maybe she was not fun because she is not a fun person in general. It may not have anything to do with her age.....

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  4. Funny I had someone inbox me and say that most of the time women who date younger men are just after money and stability, especially if the age difference is 15+ years. I disagree. I think that maybe the security of an older guy makes you feel comfortable but if you have your own then no need to try to get with a guy just for money. But it does happen and its vice versa as well. These 20 something year old guys are with 50+ females. Now what do THEY really want?!? LOL!!!

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  5. I prefer to date younger. But it's just a preference...not a hard rule. You can date whoever you like and be happy. But you can also have a preference and it's okay.

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  6. Very good write up. When you make artificial limits on age and other let's say qualification you are doing yourself a disservice. If you out there looking for love you should be open to new experiences but at the end of the day people want what they want.

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  7. I PERFER to date a women who's stable!! With maturity usually comes stability.

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  8. With men, experience definitely comes with age. I can't relate with younger men and don't have patience for immaturity.

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  9. With men, experience definitely comes with age. I can't relate with younger men and don't have patience for immaturity.

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