WHY DO WE SETTLE ????

Sitting here watching reruns of the hit show “The Game”! We know we all LOVED this show (before it moved to BET).  Well I’m watching the episode where Melanie just dropped off a bag of gifts for Derwin and Janay’s baby.  One item in the bag was that darn teddy bear that Janay HATES but is so sentimental to Derwin and Melanie.  Well that starts up a BIG argument in which Derwin and Janay realize that what they are doing is settling.  Derwin looks at it as being responsible and being there for his son, but all and all it’s still settling.  When you choose to be with someone and your heart is with somewhere else, you are settling! Point Blank! No if, ands or buts about it!

            So how many times have we done this in our life? If it’s a relationship, a job, an apartment, whatever……….WHY DO WE SETTLE???  Why can’t we just go for what we want and not settle for less, because in the end you still will be left empty and unsatisfied and sometimes you could even end up in bad situations.  I’ve settled before. In fact, I’ve settled a few times.  And it never turned out good!  At times I feel I am still settling in certain areas of my life!  Sometimes we do settle for a job that’s not fulfilling because we have bills to pay. Understandable….but what are you doing to get out of that slump of a job and into a career that you love? You may live in that neighborhood because it’s affordable but what’s your game plan on moving to an area that you want to live in? 

And lastly when it comes to love and relationships……Why are we settling??? Settling is a choice made from fear. Don’t choose to be in a relationship because you’re afraid to be alone, or because you’re afraid you won’t find someone better. Sometimes we settle because we are afraid that we are not good enough to attract someone who really cares about us and loves us. Why do we keep running back to that cheating mate….knowing if they truly loved you, they would not continue to cheat over and over and over……. And WHY do we choose to be with someone just so we don’t have to be alone?  I don’t know about you, but I know that from this point on I refuse to settle. I refuse to accept less than I know I deserve. I refuse to be “ok” with things that I know are just not right. Ladies and Gentlemen, please stop choosing to settle when you know you are well worth everything that your heart desires. So think about it…..what is it that YOU have been settling for???