The Do's and Dont's of Sex With An Ex !!!!

Sex with an ex..... How many of us have done this?  The reality is....most of us have. Its really okay. Why? Sometimes there are unresolved feelings. You both are still attracted to one another. The chemistry is still there and even though you are no longer together, its a  possibility that you are still in love. It all good,  but what you don't want to do is fall back in a tangled web that you cant seem to get out of. If you are going to divulge in having sex with an ex there are rules that must be followed....

Do Use A Condom- The fact that you have been out of the relationship and possibly seeing other people warrants the fact that a condom should be used. You are no longer in a monogamous relationship and you must be sure to protect yourself at all times.  Its understandable that you may not have been condom users when you were exclusive but now that you are no longer in a relationship you must use good judgment and a condom!


Don't Catch Feelings- Is easy to fall back into the familiar ways of your relationship. You all of a sudden start realizing all the things you miss about your ex and once you begin having sex again, you may start catching feelings. This is the worst thing you can do, because for one you are not thinking clearly (sex tends to cloud judgment) and you end up forgetting about the reason you actually broke up. You must be able to keep feeling at bay and keep in mind that its only sex! Nothing more!

 Do Set Rules- We have to follow rules everyday.... so why not set some when you start having sex with an ex. By rules, I mean both should state what they want and don't want. For instance: some people think that once you start seeing your ex on that level again, then you can call whenever and expect to see that person whenever. It doesn't work like that. That is your ex and you have to keep in mind that your ex may be seeing someone else.  So they may not be readily available for you and you have to understand and be ok with that! Set rules for how you are going to go about this sexcapade!

Don't Think You Are Getting Back Together- This is self explanatory. Just because you are having sex doesn't mean you are about to rekindle the relationship. Also definitely don't talk about the past relationship. Don't talk about why the relationship ended or mistakes that were made.  Its just sex and trying to make more out of it will just ruin the moment.  Don't get caught up in the whole idea that having sex will rekindle something because you just may end up disappointed.

DO Have Fun!!- Yes!!!! Have Fun!! It shouldn't feel like its forced. You shouldn't think about those angry feelings from the relationship or think about the relationship period. Its over! Don't do anything but enjoy the moment and have fun.!!!

Have you had sex with an ex? Was it the wrong thing to do or did it turn out ok? Share your experiences.