and friends. Only this night has become less typical because a few tables over you notice one of your best friends' significant other having dinner as well. Only they are not with your best friend, but with another companion. Not wanting to jump to conclusions, you just figure they are out with a friend or family member until something happens that lets you know for sure its definitely NOT family member and a little too much for friends. The first thing you want to do is tell your friend. But why is this not always the best thing to do? Those who are against telling gave me some really valid reasons why telling is not a good idea.
1. It really could be just a FRIEND!
We all have friends of the opposite sex and sometimes those friends are very close. Signs of affection doesn't always mean something is going on. It could just appear to be more than what it is. And you don't know just by looking. An example could be hugging and holding a friend that just loss someone close to them. The affection you thought you saw is just a friend comforting a friend. Nothing more!
2. They are NOT going to leave.
The most common reason was the fact that the friend is not going leave their significant other anyway. So why waste time telling. It could be that they have been in that situation before or even more than once and they always stayed. So what's the point of telling them, only to add more cases to the file. Just be quiet and act like you didn't even see it.
3. Strains on the friendship and your friends' relationship.
Now you become the friend that told and the one who ruined the "perfect" relationship. Now every time your friend and their significant other has an argument the whole incident will come up. The friend could also feel that you think less of them because they are staying in the relationship and accepting infidelity. It just makes everything awkward and it can all be avoided by keeping quiet!
Have you ever saw a friends significant other involved in questionable conduct. Do you know for sure your friends' mate is/has cheated? Did you tell? Why or why not? Share your stories and experiences. You can reply anonymous.... That way your friend doesn't know you know :)
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Yes, tell me and I will tell too. Just don't tell on me! LOL #kidding (kinda)
ReplyDeleteBut seriously, if you know something - just tell it. And who cares if she doesn't leave, she deserves to know.
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ReplyDeleteI'm telling Without a hesitation! I would want someone to tell me.
ReplyDeleteI'm telling Without a hesitation! I would want someone to tell me.
ReplyDeleteDepends on person. Some people I would tell and some I would not.
ReplyDeleteJust drop over and say hello! Make sure he knows that you see him. He'll likely tell on himself out of fear of you telling your friend first. Whether he lies to her or not, she'll have knowledge of the situation.
ReplyDeleteYes! That's something I would definitely do! I would make sure the joker saw me and he would feel obligated to tell. Or at least try to cover his tail! LOL!!
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