Frenemies ..... A term we hear that is used to describe a so called friend who in fact can also be classified as your enemy. I think it can be based on the saying
"Sometimes your best friends can be your worst enemies "
In my opinion, this saying is true. Time, situations, and circumstances can turn someone who you thought was your best friend into a person you feel you have never known. We are human, and because of this we have feelings, emotions, and needs, wants, issues, etc that sometimes can get in the way of carrying out our duties to be a friend. Sometimes you confide in your friends for clarity, understanding, advice, or just to vent. We all do. We don't always agree or take the advice, but sometimes it's just nice to see your friends' views or opinions. But what happens when you don't agree or take the advice. Should there be jokes and ridicules about your situation. Or even go as far as Facebook and Instagram post from friends mocking the situation. Would you still consider that person your friend. And why would they go to such extremes to go Kevin Hart on you and Laugh at your Pain. Is it because they are drowning in their own misery and find comfort in knowing that they can laugh at your situation in order to feel better about themselves. Are they jealous? Is it that they are so unhappy themselves, it pleases them to know there is a bump in your road called life. Have their past experiences caused them to be so bitter and disconsolate that to even be optimistic or positive makes them cringe. Has this ever happened to you. And if so, how did it make you feel? Would you still confide in that friend again? Have you ever been a frenemy and didn't realize it? What are some of your "frenemy" stories?
Everybody goes through things at some point in life, and your friends should be there...if nothing more than to lend an ear. If your situation becomes a joke to your friends, then consider re-evaluating your friendships. You may learn that the one you call a friend is in reality..... a frenemy!
So how do you spot these fake friends.......
Check out the tips on the link below
http://allwomenstalk.com/10-ways-to-spot-a-frenemy/8/
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ReplyDeleteYou are right that we should be able to confide in our friends but sometimes jokes are made. It's not to make the other person feel bad, but sometimes (unless the person is dying) you laugh to keep from crying. My bestie and I talk DAILY and share just about everything and we laugh and make fun of each other situation all the time!! Especially when the other person doesn't listen and was in the wrong. We don't put each other's business out on social media though (unless its an inside joke). When I think of a frienemy, I think of co-workers... people you have to talk to just to get along but really don't trust them as far as you can throw them. I would never call my bestie or other close friends that. But people do change and so do friendships & relationships. And although people change, if you feel the friendship/relationship is changing, talk about it before it becomes to the point where you think they are really hatin' on you or jealous or unhappy with their own lives. Sometimes people make jokes just because stuff is FUNNY not because they are living in misery.
I don't have any "frenemies". I simply purge people out of my life when they show adversarial type behavior.
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